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Week 2 The dust settles- discussion of baby changes by Donna Mansell

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Well, welcome back. It's the baby section. So we've already gone through the changes for you. But we've got a little small person that's had a having a busy week too. So I've already talked about the growth spurt that you can expect, because of the increased, you know, milk production. And that happens because the baby gets back to its birth weight.

And it gets quite, quite sleepy. And you think so nailed is settling business. And when babies are more sleepy, it means that they're changing. And you think, Oh, my God, it's sleeping. And so when they're sleeping, they're developing their bodies growing. And so then they wake up and you're like, Oh, my God, you're different.

So he would be potentially a bit sleepy. This is around day 10 to 14, that they're just a bit sleepy. And then they wake up and they're hungry. And you think, what did I do wrong yesterday to make the baby hungry today and you didn't it was them. But they changed and they've grown and their bodies got bigger and their tummies got bigger and they're like, oh wait milk. And so they demand this meal, can they you know, the frequency of feeding increases.

So we know that a baby can digest a whole timing of milk in an hour and a half. So if they want to feed an hour and a half to two hours, you're gonna let them because they want to it's not asleep and settling problem, it's because they're demanding more milk in with a growth spurt. They might do that for 12 hours in a day and the other 12 they might sleep well, for it might be that they're just a little bit more cranky and a bit hungrier. So to totally contradict myself, they can also have some tummy pains. Remember their bow is immature their beat, we call it colicky, so bit cranky and windy. So that's kind of the first bit of the week.

So day seven to 10 or 11, where they're just really always happens at 11 o'clock at night, you switch your bedside light off, you're like, I'm tired. I've had everyone in my family over for 10,000 cups of tea today. And then they're like, ah, like crying and windy and you think, Oh my goodness, how am I gonna do this? And you think what's wrong with you? And they are just like, I just want to cuddle and they're all legs are in and out. And so if you think about it, they bow is producing lots of wind, the poos they're quite uncomfortable and think about what helps your sore tummy.

And it's really some warm, some pressure, because we can't fix it. It's a normal part of being alive. So warm pressure and reassuring them that it's all Okay good. They don't know what the hell's going on they're thinking oh no and you know you're almost see them trying to get away from this feeling because it will be really overwhelming. So I've got a trusty white bag here and weight bags most people will have and you just warm them up to a warm that's just mild, just a warm, a little bit of warm but again, you just try on the inside of your arm and you think oh and a minute that just feels nice and warm. Now you can put it on the baby's tummy.

And you can sample the mat or you could put it on you and then put the baby on the wall. And you know you kind of cuddling them up and bringing their knees up so that they might do a big fat and then go and then you'll find that they drop off to sleep. If it's you know the first big of the night, like eight o'clock and you can tell they're getting a bit cranky and they got a sore tummy a warm bath is a great idea. But he's I've been awake for a while, the warm bath is gonna throw them over the hitch. They'll be happy for a bit and then they'll just, they'll be just crying and really overwhelmed. So, pick what you're going to do.

If you can't do a bath weight bag is a great idea. And you'll find that you know, for 20 minutes, the baby will be cranky and then that pain will go, they'll settle off and they might sleep for an hour. And then they wake up they're like, I'm hungry. You know, you've been awake for ages. But then when you think about it, they last had to feed three hours or two and a half hours before they got the wind pain. So it can be quite an ad demanding time when Yes, now they're hungry.

Before they had a sore tummy and they didn't want to eat because babies can't multitask very well. They'll do one thing and then not doing the next. And you know feeding them earlier wouldn't have fixed the sore tummy. Probably actually. He would have made it worse. Because if you think about the digestion is made the wind which is made the pain.

If you add more milk to that, then you're gonna make the problem worse. So first bit of the week, colleague, very normal. There's no magical drop, there's no magical cure. It's about reading your baby and getting through those times. It's really commonly from about 11 o'clock at night until about two o'clock in the morning. And then that settles and look, that's just the pattern of wind.

Second half of the week, it's a growth spurt when the baby's hungry or demanding more frequently, the sleeping little blocks like sleeping an hour and a half, two hours, it feeds plate the plate and you just think, Oh my god, and that's because they're grown. They're hungry. You'll notice that that stage they're not putting as much because they're needing more milk studies, not as much left over, still weighing good amounts, but the pools are smaller. That's quite normal until these extra milk comes in. And then we're back to Super boost. And, and also, which is a lot of information to digest I know.

And these little babies with their growth spurt, also have their first little development change where you think, huh? What's going on? You used to just fall asleep and now you start to think they don't like their bed anymore. We'll be like your bed last week. Why don't you like it this week? And I guess we've most growth spurt comes a development change.

They're also called one two weeks, where you are like, there's lots of different ways of saying basically, the baby is more aware of something that they previously weren't aware of. And this little baby will be more aware of you coming and going and knowing that you go and thinking Why are you leaving me here. And so you sometimes find that you're doing a bit more settling a bit more coddling than what you have been doing. And the baby does tend to kind of start to break out of their swaddles and you find that the rapping doesn't work like it used to. We also encourage you to stop wrapping the legs up. So to just lay the bottom as a wrapper, open and free so that baby's legs can do whatever they want.

You just wrap the arms in, have them all snuggled up nice and tight without those legs being up as well. And you'll find that if you try and bring their legs up, they just kick them out as well because they're a little bit stronger. So yes, this wrapping business can become a little bit more complicated. There is devices like this swaddle I've got here, put over space for a minute. So this is called a womb B, which is a z perhaps bottle as you can see The benefit of this is they can escape. They're trapped.

It's also good to realize that it's tighter in the top and looser at the bottom. So we want the baby's legs, to have the movement to do whatever they want to, we don't want to restrict their legs. We have seen in research that by restricting baby's legs to a certain position, we actually change the way that the ball and socket fits around the hip bone. And we don't want to do that. So that's why you know, a lot of the and I'll be honest, the more expensive swaddles do allow for leg room and the cheaper ones don't. And, you know, yeah, we won't go into patents and laws and blah, blah, blah.

But, you know, a lot of this title companies have tightened the design for the leg space and the others that have just come on the market. You know, they just want to sell you a swaddle and want you to buy it really they don't care if it's good for your baby or not. There's no regulation in this industry. So, you want to look at the swaddle. Does it have leg room? Yes.

Is it the right fit around the baby's neck? Yes. And they're all weighted. So, I mean that if your baby's between two and a half and six kilos, this would be the size. If it's six kilos to nine kilos, there's more room, the neck hole is a bit bigger. If you put a three and a half kilo baby in the wrong size, they'll be able to do this and get their hands out.

Which cause causes a choking risk, basically, because they shouldn't be able to do that. It you know, changes the dynamics and they can get stuck. And then you know, if your baby's got their arm out, and this bottle stuck on their neck, that's not what we want to do at all. So it's important that it's the right size for your baby. If you're looking at as the perhaps model or avail course model. There's lots on the market.

They will claim To be magical, they'll cure all sleep problems today, and they make your life easier. You know, it's like a lot of things we've got in life don't know, say but, um, you know, is it as good as sliced bread? And you know, before our generation bread wasn't sliced, and how lucky are we, we don't even realize that that's something that's happened. And I guess he you know, a lot of these baby inventions are about making life easier for you. So if I'm, if this works, because swaddling was stressing you out, and you were freaking out because it didn't work right, then you know, this deep fat version might be a lot easier for you, or you might like the Velcro or you might feel more confident with just wrapping. So don't believe the hype, so to speak, that, um, that this will revolutionize your life and make your baby sleep forever.

It's a combo of things but it's just about making it easier for you. You know that 17 times a day you rewrap the baby, which you'll go off yet 17 times actually do the 18 today. Um, so the breath is basically a cuddle. The other thing, just very basic sleeping settling stuff. So if you think of your baby in your tummy, and what they, they realized was a nice, beautiful safe place to be, was that they had a cuddle, they had a heartbeat, and they had some motion. They may or may not have had something to sack on arm or their finger, which is where a dummy comes in.

But you've got a heartbeat, you've got a cuddle, which is a swaddle and motion and most babies with having those things repeated will help them to feel safe with you leaving them in their bed. And so it's about repetition of can system C, and knowing why you're doing something, because you're helping this baby to feel safe for you to walk away from it. So you know, we're going to talk a lot more about sleeping, settling, and sleep queues and all of that kind of stuff. And this week is jam packed with changes. And you just think, Oh, my God, what is she? Oh, you know, if you're overwhelmed, and you think I don't know what's wrong, you know, send us a proper question on their Facebook page.

And because again, it's not uncommon for this to be happening and someone will say, Oh, yes, that was me. Last week, I did this and this and now has some tips and tricks for you. And next week is going to be a lot easier. So trust this little baby, listen to what they're saying to you. Don't feel like you need to do something to make something happen. There's lots of things going on.

So trust them, listen to them, then trust yourself. Have a good week.

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