Hello, and welcome to the next lecture. In this lecture, we're going to discuss how, even though you practice gratitude, it doesn't guarantee everything will go your way, it doesn't guarantee that you won't have problems. And most people already know that that's common sense. But like I share with my students, when I teach a class will go over, for example, the etiquette of doing discussions, most of them already know most of those things. But it's important to go over it anyway, just to make sure that people understand the nature of the game, so to speak. And so gratitude doesn't guarantee that everything will go your way.
Gratitude can radically change your life and it stated earlier, it can really radically change your perspective as well. And so when you change your perspective, it increases the abundance of good in different areas of your life. And when you do that the outcomes of different events and circumstances in your life can start to change as well. And so gratitude, however, doesn't guarantee everything will go your way. Sometimes life gives us what we need, not always what we want. And that's one of those things where you're like, Oh, you know, but it does.
And so if you believe in a higher power, if you believe in some kind of practice of surrender to something higher than you know, and understand that, and I don't think you even need to believe that to understand that. That's the nature of how life works. That's the nature of how the universe works. And so often, we look back and we can be equally thankful for getting some things we wanted just as much as being thankful for things we didn't get that we wanted, just as much as we can be thankful for receiving things we desired. For instance, if you've ever experienced a painful breakup, that's obviously not something anybody wants to go through. But later, we realized that the end of that relationship, left the door open for a better relationship.
And so if you're with the love of your wife, your soulmate, if you were with somebody who wasn't right for you, you never could have been with that other person without going through something that you didn't want to go through. And so sometimes it's part of the process of life. That's an example of something not going our way at the moment, but later, realizing that basically not getting our way was a blessing in disguise, as corny as it sounds. And so Likewise, when we don't get a job we want it is often because there is something better and more suitable for us just around the corner. And so, you know, additionally, disappointments, setbacks, illnesses, and conflicts are a part of life. And even gratitude cannot solve all of our problems, but it can solve some of them.
And it can make a lot of them a lot better, and it can change how we perceive them, which can change things a lot for us to claim though, that it would solve all of our problems would be a lie, and it wouldn't be fair, and I couldn't back it up with evidence and so I'm not going to try. However, what we find as our perspective changes as we practice more gratitude is that we handle these conflicts, setbacks and disappointments better because we lose Look for the blessings in the situation. And we see opportunities to learn and grow and to pay it forward. And so there's positive there. And even if we don't know it at the time, there's a reason for everything that happens. They said, it's up for the best circumstances, situations, people and opportunity to come into our lives at the right time.
And so that's a little bit about how gratitude doesn't solve all your problems. It doesn't guarantee everything will go your way. But sometimes gratitude when things don't go our way, can actually have merit too. Even though we don't want that to happen all the time. It does happen sometimes. And it is part of the process of gratitude and of life.
And so I will see you in the next lecture. And we will be talking about how difficulties and challenges can actually make you more blessed in some situations than someone who may not have as many and that sounds pretty crazy, but I'll explain what I mean in the next lecture. So I'll see you there.