Over the years while reading different books on discipline from experts on the subject, I have come to realize that they don't really understand the daily struggle that the parents have to go through with their children, and all the challenges that they have to face. And almost sounds like it's an imaginary world for them that basically say one word to the child and everything seems perfect and the child behaves immediately and it's so easy such an easy solution. Well, trust me, not in my experience, in my experience of raising five children of my own and working with a whole lot more, over the course of 20 or more years of my life, I came to understand that from time to time, even if you have set up your parenting goals, even if you have set of boundaries, even if you have clearly explained to the children, what are the consequences for crossing those boundaries, and what are the consequences for not obeying and abiding by the rules.
The children will from time to time, challenge your authority. They will from time to time misbehave just to see just to test you, if you're going to abide by those boundaries that you have set for them. They're not doing that because they mean or they're not, are they evil, they're doing that because they want to reassert the to make sure that you deserve the power that you have to lead and guide them into their lives in the future. For some children, it is more often than for others, but nevertheless, they all test their boundaries from time to time just to make sure that you're on the same page. If for example, one time you happen to slack off and don't uphold the rules and boundaries and consequences. The youngster will lose his or her respect for you.
The resentment will set in and they will not have as much respect for your authority as they had before. They will wonder what happened why Did you not enforce the boundaries? Did you stop loving them? What did they do wrong to not deserve your love anymore. Just keep in mind that the testing will come and that you have to stick by the rules and the boundaries you have set. Because that's the only way to keep making your children feel loved cared for and safe.
Children love boundaries. They love your leading and your instruction. You will just need to from time to time, show them that you do have the right that you have earned the right to continue enforcing the rules.